As one of my friends put it: Rape is a crime. Sexual assault is a crime. But “being a nasty-sleazy-sloppy man is not punishable by law (unfortunately)”.
Well, if it DOES become punishable by law, it would be great for the sex-toy industry, as well as the artificial-insemination industry.
Because no man with any brain would have anything to do with us, ever, again.
I believe people, regardless of sex, gender, race, or sexual orientation, should be treated equally.
Yea……that’s just a tiny part of feminism. 99% of all women believe that, even the ones who are anti-abortion. But let’s not digress.
And this is as much the patriarchy’s fault as it is our own.
Oh Lord. That mythical “patriarchy” thing again.
For too long, our voices have been silenced both in and out of the bedroom. We’re fighting against centuries of being told to be passive, to sit down and shut up. Year after year, decade after decade, and century after century of being told the same thing, of being made to believe we were less, we were lacking, has made an impact, whether we decide as individuals to live by these rules or throw them out the window.
I’m 63, raised in the US. I’ve never been told any of that, or was made to believe that. Your mother or father told you that, or made you believe that? Really? What assholes.
Therefore, it’s up to us to start speaking up. Don’t assume your partner knows what you want or what your hard and soft limits are, tell them.
That’s what the entire “values/conservative” side of the political equation has been saying since this happened. I’VE been saying that since it happened. It’s EASY, not hard, to tell a guy, if you’re getting into a situation in which he *may* expect a sexual encounter, to tell him what you are or not interested in. Simple as can be.