a) Often, women who most complain about a certain type of toxic alpha male behavior find themselves consistently drawn back to males who display toxic alpha male masculinity.
This behavior dates back to the Dawn of Man.
yet when I suggest that perhaps they should not find themselves in a bar at closing time 5 nights a week
This is one of the more annoying feminist shibboleths. Saying “if you don’t want trouble, don’t be where trouble happens” is not gender specific. We teach it to our male children as well as our girls.
They tend to be the men who agree with women almost instinctually, to win their confidence, so that they can very creepily conduct their sketchy predatory behavior without detection and without question. This is not every man I know like this, but a great deal many of them.
Every man has a preferred tactic that they hope will get them laid. :-)
Is it possible that many of the men who push back on some of your assertions, in good faith and with all of the same general goals, simply want to foster a conversation that is balanced.
Of course. A man who doesn’t want a dialogue will simply respond with “shaddap, bitch” and not take the time to write a short essay outlining their issues with the rationale in discourse.