It’s not actually simple to say “no”.

It’s always simple to say “no”. It’s a single, monosyllabic word that rolls quite easily off the tongue.

What you mean to say is that sometimes, with the wrong man, it’s DANGEROUS. Nobody is debating that. Obviously, in what ever we do or wherever we go, there is physical risk. True of either sex. More so for us, because on average they’re bigger and stronger.

This is all the more reason to be brutally honest with a man we don’t know well PRIOR to being alone with him. And as your examples show, sometimes even being in public isn’t enough to eliminate risk, if the man is not well socialized.

But you also say that what we wear is considered “consent”.

I did not say that. I said that what we wear is a social cue. There is a rather large difference between what I SAID and what you are saying.

I get your drift. You just said that it’s okay for men to not read and interpret cues because they have a one-track mind when it comes to sex. Or, as you so clearly stated “in the middle of other things happening”.

Incorrect. I do not believe that men have a one-track mind when it comes to sex. I believe that during foreplay and during the sexual act, it becomes more difficult to read cues, simply because the participants are not looking for cues at that point in time.

You have argued that we should say no and that men are too dumb to know what it means.

I never said a word about men being “dumb”, and they certainly are expected to know what the meaning of “no” is at all times.

Eve, you have a problem. You read words which are very easy to understand, and then impute meaning to them that is not there. Listen to what I say, don’t insert additional meanings or innuendos between the lines. If you find something I say not to be clear, ask rather than interpret. I do not write with hidden meanings nor scurrilous intent.

Common sense.

Data Driven Econophile. Muslim, USA born. Been “woke” 2x: 1st, when I realized the world isn’t fair; 2nd, when I realized the “woke” people are full of shit.

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