"It should not be this hard to solidify a path for trans kids to live in peace, with the freedom to play with their friends on a team that best aligns with their gender identity. "

Unfortunately, it is not fair for them to do so.

This is not an anti-trans statement. It is not indicative of any animus of against transgendered people whatsoever, despite the intent of some to make it so. It simply acknowledges that to be born male imbues a very different physiology that on average, provides substantial advantages to males in most sports.

Again unfortunately, one must herein choose between fairness or inclusivity. Both cannot be true.