I’ve never felt anything so painful.
I’m glad you went though this exercise.
Too many times, parental resistance to a transition, or finding they have a gay/lesbian child, is interpreted as primitive/religious/phobic/hateful.
Well, that may be part of it, but your thought exercise exposed the larger part, in my view — that the parent suddenly has had their reality (and the future they expected) ripped from them, and the child they’ve always tried to protect from pain and they want always to protect from pain is charting a path forward which will be …… more painful, probably, than the one the parent envisioned, and one where the parent feels unable to perform that protective role.
When you come out to your parents, you’re dropping a big fat exploding bomb on their doorstep, and it blew up. It’s going to take some time to clean up the mess and have the emotions settle before you can move forward.
It’s not just because they’re old sticks-in-the-mud and phobic, eh?