I think it better if you declare the boundaries before you’re in private with him, knowing that some men think that agreement to go back to “somebody’s place” is a guarantee of sex.

Seems pretty simple. You get asked to go to “his place”; you tell him you’d like to, but you’re not into sex on the first/second/third date or a more vague “this early in a relationship”.

If he bolts, then you know you just saved yourself from having problems with an asshole. If he agrees, and you change your mind later, everyone’s happy.

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Data Driven Econophile. Muslim, USA born. Been “woke” 2x: 1st, when I realized the world isn’t fair; 2nd, when I realized the “woke” people are full of shit.

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