Where you see the problems are all based in laws and state systems which are all heavily stacked against you as a father. It was not always so. Feminism has made it so.
Not sure that’s correct. In the US historically, one of the ways traditional gender roles were codified into law was in the divorce courts, where it was just taken for granted that the children would be given to the mother unless she was a substance abuser or mentally incompetent.
As that codification has come off the written books, it still holds a rather persuasive hold on legal decisions:
(Obviously, what this chart doesn’t tell us is what % of fathers don’t contest custody.)
Further, since the mother is assumed to be the most responsible custodial parent unless evidence is otherwise shown, she is in the “driver’s seat” as far as matters regarding visitation are concerned. If she wishes to weaponize the children and use them to vet her grievances against her ex, there is very little the husband can to do stop her.
At any rate, this has been the status quo in the US since well before “feminism” took any hold of the national psyche.
And, although I may be mistaken……..this is one of the areas where some “feminists” have agreed with the Normal Folk., because they agree that the above isn’t “fair”.