As a fellow Texan I’m sure you can think of a couple big reasons to prefer delivery. ;) For non-Texans allow me to give them: heat and traffic.


Women will (generally in my experience) get together for the explicit purpose of chatting and socializing. Men tend to need an excuse.

Yep. Women will arrange lunch for no reason other than to have it. Men need a sporting event or some such notion.

So if we socialize electronically, does our motivation to shop together go away? I wonder about your thoughts as to how these relate.

I think the larger question is “Is social media socializing actually socializing?” Human communication is, to a large extent, non-verbal; body language, facial expressions, strategically-placed sighs and deep breaths. This all disappears when you are no longer face-to-face, which in my view is one of the main reasons why online communications can be so nasty.

Which brings me to a separate but related question for you, Kady. Have you read The Diamond Age?

Yep. Without diving to deeply, the innate motivational issues were largely what interested me about the book. IIRC, out of the three girls given the Primer, the only one that stayed interested in it to its completion was Nell; and although Nell was fully tooled and encouraged to take a leadership role in society as it existed, she carved out her own path, appearing to underachieve for a very long time before the end.

Takeaway: You are who you are. Nell was the only one who seemed to intrinsically motivate.

Of course the “ractive” comes into being only because the current level of social media, over the long haul, proves insufficient to meet the socializing needs of the human.

Also interesting how the “English” tribe intentionally built their society modeled on a pre-technological period. They controlled technology far beyond anything we have today, but that was for “work”. When they left “work”, their society looked like Jane Austen’s London.

Data Driven Econophile. Muslim, USA born. Been “woke” 2x: 1st, when I realized the world isn’t fair; 2nd, when I realized the “woke” people are full of shit.

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