Because that’s what the word means.

But it doesn’t.

Literally, the term “phobic”, in any context, means a “fear”. It does not mean “dislike” or “prejudice.”

Further, my statement in my response to Rob used the term “unappealing”, as in “the fact you have X (or, do not have X) turns me off (or on) sexually”.

So, if I find a man’s long nose (for example) unappealing, that is a perfectly good reason not to want to screw or date them. It doesn’t mean that I dislike all long nosed people, nor does it mean that I am prejudiced towards them or fearful about them. It simply means that back in some dark psychological alley in my brain someplace, long noses don’t ring my bell.

Same reasoning for penises, beard stubble, and deep voices, I assume.

In the article she clearly outlines that everyone gets to decide the reason they don’t want to screw or date. The nuance of the article isn’t that people can’t choose to date or not, it’s that those that DO find them attractive need an open place to be attracted.

No objection from me on that one.

I’m a man and if one of my friends was dating a trans woman I’d have to check my knee jerk reaction. That’s just being honest. It’s that knee jerk reaction that’s wrong.

I don’t know why you’d have a knee jerk reaction at all. After all, who somebody else screws or dates is none of your business.

But let’s not miss the point that if a guy dates a trans he’s going to take shit from his friends and that he’s going to be the butt of a ton of jokes. Something he wouldn’t face if he was dating anyone else.

Yea, but that’s on them, not him.

I don’t believe my attraction or lack of an attraction is the defining characterization of a person. Why is it an obsession with Trans people?

Oh. I actually know the answer to that one, I think. :-)

IIRC, the majority of trans people don’t want to be perceived as a “third gender”; what they want is to blend in with their preferred sex, so that nobody ever knows that they were “trans”. If you look on youtube, you will find tens of thousands of videos on a “passing trangender” search, all of which coach the transgendered individual on how to move through society in a frictionless fashion by controlling their deportment, appearance, voice, etc.

I would assume that the desire to be “attractive” is probably tied in to the desire for your transgenderism to not be noticed. But, I’m not a therapist, and I don’t play one on TV.

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Data Driven Econophile. Muslim, USA born. Been “woke” 2x: 1st, when I realized the world isn’t fair; 2nd, when I realized the “woke” people are full of shit.

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